Do you ever have days where you feel like crap? Do you ever have days where you feel you aren't good enough? I have been having those a lot lately. And, since I am also a single mom, I have also had that feeling that I will never ever find someone for me. It sucks.
I don't even know how to try and figure that part out. I am clueless with the whole dating scene. And I am too independent for my own good!
I am practing yoga twice a week and trying to really watch what I eat. I would like to lose about 25 pounds--weight that crept up on me the past couple of years. [My ACL tear last year didn't help!]
And, I want to be clear that I am not writing this to solicit loads of comments about how wonderful I am; although I will take those. :) I am writing it because that is what I am feeling right now. I think it probably has something to do with my birthday coming up and then I will only have 365 days left of my 30s. But, whatever it is, it is something that has been bothering me lately and my blog is the one place I feel like I am write about how I really truly feel.
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Teresa, let's chat... we have some of the same thoughts and nearly the same weight loss goal. Maybe we can be partners! Check in with each other and keep each other going and such... what do you think?
You know what? I absolutely feel the exact same way much of the time--and my 30's passed quite a few years back. The only thing that has given me any peace is that I've absolutely quit even trying to date. It just hasn't worked for me with trying to be a mom. I've felt better having resigned myself to raising my kid, dating after he's older, and realizing that I need to build a social network with the possibility that I may never remarry in mind. It has helped. And I have that independent problem, too.
Of course you know you're wonderful. That doesn't make being alone any easier. :)
Oh Cheryl, I admire you. I wish I could do that... I guess I'm holding on to, "the ex can have it all, why can't I?" when in reality it's because I chose to be a parent and he chose not to. So, he doesn't get to have it all... he doesn't get to be a parent to the most wonderful boy on the planet! (according to me).
Doesn't stop me from wanting to be with someone, though... one day that boy is going to leave me (I hope)...
Teresa, as your self-entitled "older birthday sis", please let me tell you: the 40s are FUN, too. They are for me. Sometimes I wonder the same things you do but then again, once in awhile something happens that reminds me that I've got it good and there's a reason I am not married.
But when I see my kids and I see how they turned out and I see my family and friends and I am following my dreams in ways I never thought possible...I know it's great.
And YOU, Teresa? You are a great and awesome lady in your own right. When he does come along, he's going to be one of the luckiest guys in the world.
Thanks you guys for your nice words. Monica it is so great to hear from you again!
Carrie, yes, I would like for us to be soul sisters on this journey.
XOXOXO to you all.
Life is what it is and things move at their own speed.
If you are single its because Mr Rght has not crossed your path yet and you won't compromise on anything less than Mr. Right.
I just turned 50 and the first thing I thought was.....jello.
The second was jiggling boobs.
Well the Jello didn't help
You just keep doing what you are doing and before you know it you will be singng about some hunk that you're doing summersaults over.
Happy Easter
Hi Teresa~
Hope the last several days have been better! I've missed you. Spring Break looked fun, but wow.....17 hours with 2 young boys!
As for the weight thing - I've generally found things like this to be helpful -
http://caloriecount.about.com/
When I track my food and exercise, I always do a better job.
As for the other stuff - just keep reminding yourself that we're (men) idiots...it has nothing to do with you. Dating has always been an awkward, often job-interview-like process: a ton of resumes never get looked at, you get called in to meet with a couple of people, and half the time the one that makes you an offer is the offer you don't want. Don't get too down about it, you'll find someone.
It's never too late to eat right & exercise.
My wife was a couch potato, and at 50(!) said she had enough. Three years later, she's down 30 pounds and in the best shape of her life.
Of course, she dragged me (another couch potato) into the exercise regimen, and I've lost 25 pounds.
Dating - sorry - can't help you there. I did meet my wife through a dating service (hated the bar scene, and the dates my "friends" set me up with were worthless).
It's something to consider... I'm using eharmony and have been having a pretty good time, as you know! Oh, and don't you have an iPhone? If so, there's an app called "lose it" that makes food journaling and counting calories really easy. I lost a lb last week... We'll talk more! xx!
Well, I didn't comment way back on this one. But .......
It is what it is. It truly is just a number. I feel better at 46 emotionally and mentally than I ever did in my 20's or 30's. Yup, physically, sometimes it sucks, but who cares, I just get 'er done as they say.
Weight, we just work at that all the time don't we? Sometimes we win, sometimes the cheesecake wins.
Dating??? I love the online dating sites. Met a few wonderful people through Lavalife. Found Shannon there and 3 1/2 years later....
Big hugs and lotsa prayers.
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